By: Sholom Kesselman
I must admit that there is great irony in using the internet as a platform to debate the “dangers” of the internet, nevertheless here I go.
Four years ago, in 2012, there was the famous “internet Asifa” or “internet convention”, where esteemed Rabbis of ultra orthodox communities publicly raised the alarm on the dangers of the internet and fell just short of banning it outright. They strongly condemned it and characterized it as the biggest threat to Orthodox Judaism in our time. Some even went as far as classifying it as the biggest danger to ever face our religion in the entirety history.
It doesn’t take a genius to see the “dangers” of internet. Whether it be the addictiveness of social media, the immorality and immodest content so easily accessible or the forums and blogs where heretical material is discussed, it’s easy to see why this is alarming to so many people.
This sentiment is shared by many of my co-religionists and seems to be the mainstream attitude in ultra orthodox circles. Of course hardly anyone is prepared to “throw it out”- it’s become pretty much a necessity, but it is still seen as a serious threat and is believed to be a primary cause in many of our youth leaving the fold of Judaism.
But here is why I think they are wrong. I would even go so far as to say: internet may be one of the best things to ever happen to Judaism.
Over the generations we developed a strategy of insulation. We have protected our children and limited their exposure to anything that could test them or tempt them away from Judaism. We have built our communities on this foundation and become dependent on it for our very survival.
Is this a good thing? Yes and no. It’s good because we are not supposed to expose ourselves to unnecessary tests and challenges and we should always seek to minimize any and all distractions to Torah. But it’s also not good. Such Judaism suffers from a lack of depth and authenticity. If I’m only religious because I’ve never been exposed to anything else than how truly connected am I to my religion? If at the very first sign of opposition I am questioning my beliefs and commitments than how strong is my belief and commitment in the first place?
Enter the internet.
The internet age has obliterated this phenomenon. It is no longer possible to be truly insulated from the secular world. One could be in the heart of Me’ah She’arim or B’nei B‘rak and still be “living” in Hollywood or Times square. The entire world with all of its temptations and pressures is easily accessible with the tapping of a few buttons. Insulation is no longer possible and so a new strategy must be called on for combating the “world” and maintaining Judaism.
Banning the internet doesn’t work. Firstly it’s a necessity and will therefore continue to be found in most of our homes. Secondly once a child is of age, they get themselves a smart phone or tablet and then there is nothing a parent can do. Delaying your child from obtaining such devices for as long as possible is wise and installing filters on all home computers is highly recommended, but we all know that these are not full proof solutions. By the time our children hit 16 -18 they will have all the access they want and it would be delusional to think that it could be prevented.
So what then? How do we combat the “internet”? How do we maintain our strict adherence to Torah and its values in the face of such a stiff challenge?
The answer: By becoming stronger and more authentic Jews.
In truth, Torah has nothing to fear from “the world”. In a faceoff between truth vs. falsehood, light vs. dark; and substance vs. emptiness, truth light and substance should prevail. But for centuries we have avoided this fight, we have backed away and retreated, not believing in the strength of what we had.
But now times have changed and G-d has dealt us a new deck of cards. Instead of ditching this fight, we are now forced to face it head on. We need to reach in and find that inner strength, search out the real beauty and wealth within Torah, in whose presence the world has very little appeal.
We need to instill that within our children and ourselves and cultivate a real and unwavering commitment to Torah. We have to believe in it and love it so much, that we can withstand the onslaught of all temptations and pressures. We need to develop values like self control, discipline and responsibility to the point where “internet no longer poses a threat.
Of course this is a tall order and there may be casualties along the way to achieving this, but in the long run we will be better off. A new more authentic and stronger brand of Judaism will emerge, one that has been tested with the ultimate test and emerged stronger and truer because of it.
A further point:
The way we choose to define and brand the internet is extremely significant. Our children will take this queue from us and will see it the way we tell them too.
When we shield our children from it completely, the message we are sending them is: the internet is something terrible. When we define it as a monster – full of immorality and heresy, then they will come to know it as that. When they do eventually begin to use it, they will be more inclined to seek out the negativity because we told them that that is what the internet is about.
In truth, the internet is full of Torah and positivity. It can be used to promote Judaism, Torah values, goodness and is a source of tremendous light. If we define it as such, they will come to know it as that. By specifically introducing it to them (the good parts of course) at a young age and allowing them to benefit from all the good that is in it, they will forever associate internet with Torah and goodness. Even when they do discover the “garbage”, it will always be seen as secondary to the real internet which is Torah.
So I am not at all alarmed by this onslaught of technology. I believe in the power of authentic Judaism and the beauty and wealth of the Torah. I’m confident that a new generation will emerge (and is emerging), who will have the strength, understanding and value system to maintain their unwavering commitment to G-d and Halacha even in the age of internet and technology.
This is all part of G-d’s plan and its one more stage in the evolution of Judaism. Like Hellenism before it that also posed a grave threat but ultimately only enhanced the studying of Torah and development of Jewish philosophy, the internet too will ultimately come to be seen as a catalyst that created stronger and more real Jews.
This is why the internet may just end up being the best thing to have ever happened to Judaism.
15 thoughts on “Internet vs Yidishkeit – What will Prevail”
I get your general point but saying its the best thing that ever happened for Judaism is taking it too far.
It is still a big Sakanah and we have to protect ourselves as much as we could, though in the long run I agree, Yidishkeit will be fine.
We have to focus on the good of the internet; the thousands of Torah websites etc.
I encourage my children to use the Internet for kedusha, this way, as you said, they will see it as holy.
Its a huge mistake to ban it outright in your home; totally agree.
Another element that easn’t really touched on is the huge amount of Bittul Zman and laziness that can develop from bad computer habbits etc.
I’m a mother of young teenagers and I am frightened of what my children can find on the web.
We have filters in place but I’m pretty sure my kids are 3 steps ahead.
Your article was reassuring and taught me to spend less time fighting the negative influences and more time pushing and adding more positivity and light in our family.
As far as filters, it can be argued that it’s even worse. If someone has no Internet access and then suddenly obtains it there are all kinds of things to check out. Even something as benign as Google maps for example can be absolutely fascinating for one who never had access to it. Whereas if someone spent his whole childhood online but was always told that the device he’s using has a strong filter, then I would imagine as soon as he gets a device without a filter he what immediately want to see what he was missing out on. Perhaps the eitzah is the act similar to an Erev ,and have one but not make a big deal about it or even mention it.This way it doesn’t become such ” forbidden fruit”.
One of the best articles I’ve read on this topic.
I believe this is a must read for all educators and parents.
Yasher Koach to the author for delivering a master piece
“In truth, Torah has nothing to fear from “the world”. In a faceoff between truth vs. falsehood, light vs. dark; and substance vs. emptiness, truth light and substance should prevail. But for centuries we have avoided this fight, we have backed away and retreated, not believing in the strength of what we had.
I amconfident that a new generation will emerge (and is emerging), who will have the strength, understanding and value system to maintain their unwavering commitment to G-d and Halacha even in the age of internet and technology.”
Couldn’t have been said better. Excellent piece.
I think there is a broader point that needs to be made.
A Judaism that is based on fear is not real.
We can’t be focused on fending off “dangers” only and doing things so that our children don’t stray.
We have to practice and teach a fearless, positive, confident and proactive brand of Judaism.
Let’s lose the fear of our kids going off, and practice Yidishkeit freely and loosely because we love it.
Like your point.
Instead of “Defensive Judaism”, its time for “proactive Judaism”. And thats not just for shluchim. We have to live and breath Judaism with our kids, and not be running away constantly from threats. The main objective is (not so much the…) but the “Asei Toiv”.
I’ve seen lots of parents who, while i’m sure mean well, teach a judaism out of fear… This is very damaging and counterproductive to the kids chinuch.
And the Rebbe is precisely teaching us the opposite, to live Judaism Broadly! Out of full conviction and absolute Emunah, and, most importantly, spreading to all those around us.
I think we should make a line: “You’re Still a Shliach even if Your Not on “Shlichus”.
And, yes. I do see parents who live that way, and are raising very good erlich Yirei Shamaim and Chassidish refined children.
One of the best articles I’ve read on this subject.
I shared it with many of my chassidish friends.
The worst part about the “insulation” approach to the internet is that the “insulators” will declare you possul, tamei and treif if you follow any other approach. No shidduch, no yeshiva for your kids, etc. We need a game plan for dealing with that. You know what, send your kids to a yeshiva for kids of baalei teshuva. They’ll probably get a better education.
“When we shield our children from it completely, the message we are sending them is: the internet is something terrible. When we define it as a monster – full of immorality and heresy, then they will come to know it as that.”
That is a great point, but here’s the follow up question.
Why wouldn’t you apply the same logic to gender separation. By not allowing boys and girls any interaction with each other aren’t you sending a message that the opposite sex is “bad”. This leads to relationship issues down the road.
By your logic, it would be better to teach young adolescents the proper way to interact – safely and appropriately, rather than banning the relationship outright.
The message we send when we separate the gender is not that the opposite sex is bad. The child clearly sees his/her parent and sibling of the opposite gender being treated respectfully, and also knows that they’re likewise segregated from his/her gender. They’re just taught that frivolous interaction before marriage is inappropriate.
Parents of children spend a majority of their time insulating their children from so many negative influences throughout their lives, be it dangerous activities, habits or even ideas that it seems ludicrous to suggest that the Internet, which advocates for, encourages and implants every single abhorrent concept ever known to mankind (whatever your personal definition of abhorrent is) should be some kind of exception.
You write “We need to develop values like self control, discipline and responsibility to the point where internet no longer poses a threat.” when the topic of discussion is young children we can’t possibly succeed in cultivating those character traits in them without also simultaneously SEVERLY limiting their exposure to the Internet and other such powerful forces for the opposite.
This article has a couple of great points,
Still, there is the concept of “Iskafya” and only afterwards is the “is’hapcha”
The internet does not have to be “pushed on” to our kids from a young age, there are measures of protection needed, simply because a child doesn’t yet know himself what is right and what is wrong, you have to teach him/her. You can just let a child “explore on his/her own” and find the right path…. The Rebbe spoke very critically against such an approach.
At the same time, Yiddishkeit has to be lived and communicated to our kids with fearlessness, and not being so “nispoel” (or nispoel at all….) from the outside world… we have to teach our children to choose light truth over darkness and falshkeit.
I think that your approach is waaay too open.
I agree with the inyan but the approach is wrong.
Yes! Invest all your energies in relationship with your kids and education about a correct perspective AND please, please, please make sure that your kids safe and you keep that stuff out of your home.
We’ve all seen it. Families that have this hippie “everything’s cool” attitude, drown in the nonsense and never get a chance to live above it.
Be careful what you say, it’s what people want to hear but it’s cost us lives- and that’s a fact.